Did you say too much?
What happens immediately after you get vulnerable with someone? Will they stay or will they go?
Let’s talk about the vulnerability hangover!
Hey everybody! This is Marley Jaxx and welcome to the world of video, impact, and profit – or as I like to call it, the VIP Code.
We’re talking more about vulnerability today, because let’s face it: I have way more to say on this topic.
I want to dive deeper into this moment that I call the “vulnerability hangover”, which is the moment that occurs immediately after you’ve said the vulnerable thing. (It’s the most important topic to talk about if you want a successful, long term relationship with viewers of clients!)
It’s the moment when you’re feeling every feeling at once – nervous, scared, relieved, grateful, sad, angry, happy… basically like the rug has just been ripped out from under you and you don’t know how to feel about the surface you’re walking on anymore.
Whether you’re being vulnerable with one person or with your entire audience, this is the moment when you start thinking:
Maybe I said too much. Maybe I didn’t phrase that the right way.
What if they laugh at me? What if they think I’m weak or stupid? What if they never want to see my face again after this?
All of these “maybe”s and “what if”s start playing over and over in your head for minutes, hours, or even days after your display of vulnerability.
Have no fear – this is the vulnerability hangover. Everybody deals with it, whether you’re ridiculously confident or insecure. Whether you have all the money in the world or you’re flat broke… the vulnerability hangover is the one great equalizer.
But it doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake. If you’re being honest and doing your best not to hurt anybody else, you don’t have any reason to think you’ve made a mistake by displaying your vulnerability.
If you’re looking for a cure for the vulnerability hangover, I don’t have it. I’m still dealing with it to this day.
I don’t think there is a cure for the vulnerability hangover… because everybody has these feelings, right? Everyone feels self-doubt on occasion; we all make decisions without 100% certainty on the outcome. That’s all part of being human.
But here’s one thing I know: when you reveal a vulnerable part of yourself, you can either expect an opportunity or an outcome.
When you enter into vulnerability with an expectation of an outcome, you’ll probably end up disappointed. If you think “this story is going to skyrocket me to social media fame”, you’re probably wrong. If you think “if i tell this person my story, they’ll understand how similar we are and how we’re total soulmates”, you’re probably wrong.
But when you have expectations for opportunity, you can put yourself out there and lay your heart on the line and think to yourself, “I wonder what happens next.”
I’m not saying that approach will stop you from over analyzing and experiencing the vulnerability hangover, but take it from me – it’s definitely more fun and freeing than trying to predict the outcome.
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